So…this past week I found out that I had not been receiving your replies to The Field Notes in my inbox for WEEKS!
You must have wondered why I hadn’t replied, and I am SO SORRY!
To be honest, I should have looked into this sooner because it’s not normal for me to hear the sound of crickets when I check my inbox after firing off an edition of The Field Notes.
When you didn’t respond, I thought maybe I’d finally GONE TOO FAR.
But then I found out you HAD responded. I just hadn’t received your messages.
However, before I found out about the problem with my email forwarding, I thought a lot about quitting The Field Notes.
I mean, if they’re not inspiring you, what’s the point?
The time I invest in writing them is for the PLEASURE I RECEIVE from reading how they have INSPIRED YOU to do something in your own life.
Yep, if you read that carefully you caught that actually it’s all about ME.
Because I know that what feeds ME is spending my time doing things and helping the
people I enjoy, I’m constantly asking myself…
“what do I want to do with my time and my talent today”?
Today, I’m going to let you in on a DIRTY SECRET.
There are only a SELECT FEW women in the WORLD who saw me STIFLE TEARS as I FINALLY ADMITTED this SECRET that had held me back for the ENTIRETY of my 20’s…
All I want is to “enjoy my life and not feel bad about it.”
Enjoy Life. Not feel bad.
My BIG WHY in 5 words.
Sure, I want to take as many people with me as I can so we can ENJOY LIFE together, but only as long as I’m enjoying helping them.
If you’re not adding to MY enjoyment of life by being COMPLEX enough to be interesting, RELENTLESSLY AMBITIOUS, and EMOTIONALLY INTENSE, sorry, but you’re on your own.
This goes for both friends and clients.
For a long time, labeling my WHY as WRONG kept me from doing what I wanted to do with my time and talents.
I thought I needed to have a “better” WHY (read: more altruistic) before I could be truly helpful to others.
I sincerely believed my WHY (wanting to enjoy my life and not feel bad about it) made me a sub-par human being.
When I finally admitted my SECRET SHAME in front of a room full of women, I was SHOCKED by their perspective.
As it turned out, they were just fine with my SELFISH WHY, and many FELT INSPIRED by knowing there was a WOMAN out there making HERSELF a top priority in life.
Some even expressed their desire to be MORE LIKE ME. I was FLOORED!
After that day, I had a new perspective, and PERSPECTIVE, CHANGES EVERYTHING.
From that day forward, I decided that although my WHY was UNCONVENTIONAL, I could be helpful to others and I’ve NEVER LOOKED BACK.
As an anthropologist, I’ve spent my life studying humans, and us females especially face so much COMPLEXITY.
The truly GREAT WOMEN LEADERS among us face the most COMPLEXITY of all.
However, MOST humans will never ADVANCE to facing real COMPLEXITY because they RUN from basic PERSONAL GROWTH which leads to PLAYING the GAME at a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.
I’m sure you know all about personal growth and you don’t need me to tell you how CHALLENGING or TRANSFORMATIONAL it is because you’ve been through it and are probably leading others through it on some level already.
But, how does a FIERCE OVERACHIEVER CONTINUE TO ADVANCE when she’s ACHIEVED a TRULY COMPLEX level of growth that might require an ASSIST?
For a FIERCE OVERACHIEVER, there is nothing more embarrassing (or exhausting) than to be SPINNING your WHEELS and getting nowhere.
Asking for an ASSIST seems counterintuitive (PLUS is HARD) because it smacks of WEAKNESS.
Needing an ASSIST is not a sign of WEAKNESS, it is a SIGN OF having ADVANCED to a HIGH LEVEL of COMPLEXITY that most people NEVER ACHIEVE.
If you arrived at the ADVANCED LEVEL a while ago, but you haven’t figured out what your next right move is yet, maybe it’s time for a STRATEGIC (but private) ASSIST?
If this MAKES SENSE to you and you’re ready to grab an ASSIST so you can KEEP ADVANCING, hit reply or book a call with me here.
Until next week,
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