I was thinking of you the other day.
Even if we rarely get together, I’m thinking of you each day and SENDING GOOD THOUGHTS your way.
We all have CRAZY BUSY lives and I LOVE that we get to RECONNECT here each week.
Last week, I was running a Virtual Intensive for a new client, and I couldn’t help but be AMAZED at how CONNECTED technology allows us to feel.
This lovely woman whom I was Skyping with lives ACROSS THE COUNTRY, and yet there we were practically FACE TO FACE talking about issues that were making her VERY UNHAPPY and that many would hesitate to share even with a close friend.
We spent an entire day building a PERSONALIZED YARDSTICK from which she could MEASURE to see if she was making the RIGHT DECISIONS so she could FEEL HAPPY AGAIN.
You see, even though this woman is highly ACCOMPLISHED, for years now she’s been SUFFERING from feeling like NO MATTER WHAT she decides to do, SHE MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG.
By the end of the day, we both looked like we’d been THROUGH the MEAT GRINDER, but we also had the SATISFACTION of knowing that in one fell swoop…
we’d SOLVED A PROBLEM that had been MAKING HER UNHAPPY for decades.
My clients are some of my FAVORITE PEOPLE, but I also have to remember to balance myself out by getting out to have FUN with people who are just FRIENDS.
Here I am with my friend Mary trying out a new restaurant on the Occoquan River.
We shared a delicious appetizer consisting of dates STUFFED with chorizo and WRAPPED in bacon. Sweet. Spicy. Salty. They were AMAZING!!
With no husband at home to lavish my attention on anymore, it would be SO EASY for me to slip into WORKING every evening and weekend. I’ve learned, however, that throwing myself into work will not lead me to more HAPPINESS.
CONTINUING to ENJOY MY LIFE when the most important person to me chose to walk away has been a HUGE and UNEXPECTED CHALLENGE.
Some days, I FEEL LIKE I’m going through the meat grinder ALONE…but then I remember that there’s plenty of SUPPORT out there for me if I choose to ask for it.
I’m only going through this alone if I CHOOSE TO BE ALONE.
There’s plenty of HAPPINESS available for me to scoop up, too.
It is OKAY to ENJOY LIFE, like lunch with a FRIEND, a stranger SMILING at you, or sweet/spicy/salty dates, even (or maybe ESPECIALLY) when things in your life are NOT PERFECT.
It does not make you a FRAUD to be ENJOYING YOUR LIFE in spite of the fact that it is NOT PERFECT.
You can ENJOY what’s in front of you right now, without using it as an excuse for COMPLACENCY, or PUTTING things OFF until you have all your DUCKS IN A ROW.
Have I always been so COURAGEOUS in the face of ADVERSITY?
But since I decided that NOW WAS AS GOOD A TIME to START AS ANY, my life has never been the same.
MY life is NOT PERFECT, but I do ENJOY my life and feel HAPPY and CONFIDENT most days.
I know making the RIGHT DECISION about how to ENJOY your life NO MATTER WHAT it’s THROWING AT YOU, as well as what DECISION will MAKE YOU HAPPIEST, isn’t always SIMPLE because there are so many RELATED PARTS to consider.
If you need someone who is TRAINED to LOOK at your BIG PICTURE so you can make DECISIONS that are good for ALL THE RELATED PARTS of your life, you’re INVITED to book a 30 minute call with me here so we can DISCUSS WHY YOUR INSIDES ARE CHURNING.
If I can help you, I’ll give you details about how you can book a Virtual Intensive with me.
If I can’t help you, I’ll do my darndest to connect you with a resource that will.
Until next week,
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